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Help for Marriage after a Tragedy
By Garrett36 Pierson36

 Sometimes when the only thing that holds a marriage breaks, the marriage itself breaks down. Tragedies sometimes change couples, making them more determined to pursue something else in life or making them point fingers at someone on the particular tragedy. When couples lose children especially, marriages disintegrate. 50 to 90% of tragedy-struck couples in the United States headed for divorce. It seems that tragedy begets another tragedy. If you and your spouse have experienced a serious tragedy recently, you may either feel more strongly bonded or you may feel more apart. Help for marriage that has grown apart because of a tragedy is here, however. There are no guarantees though, for the results of grief are very difficult to tend to.


It all depends on the tragedy.

If the tragedy involves the spouse doing something terrible that he or she can no longer take back then it is difficult to look back at a once-happy life and say that there is help for marriage such as these. Actions committed by the spouse such as murder or rape are irreparable so there is no help for the marriage itself but there may be a move towards forgiveness. There may be no understanding in these cases, however. If the tragedy is something that both of the couple have suffered, they could stand strong together instead of withdraw into each other's shells.

It all depends on the strength of the marriage.

The marriage may have been troubled long before the tragedy struck. People just view the particular tragedy as the fatal catalyst. If this is the case, help for marriage troubles may not be really needed. The couple could each move on to separate lives. However, a formerly strong relationship that has been significantly rocked by a tragedy could still be saved. If the couple could talk about their grief and take strength from each other, there is a fighting chance. Couples should talk about losses such as their child's death, unemployment, natural disasters, loss of home and other heart-wrenching tragedies.

It all depends on the couple's personalities.

There are people who are hot-tempered and unforgiving. There are those who are always willing to forget any wrongdoing. These personalities are important in deciding once and for all the future of a husband and wife that have been wracked by a sudden tragedy. If both are strong enough to move on from the tragedy, they could be combine their strengths. On the other hand, a stronger personality should be able to support the one who is more weakened by grief after the tragedy. Still, it would be better if both could take turns comforting each other. No matter how strong a personality you are, you are still human.

Marriages are either destroyed or reinforced by tragedy. Some have chosen to break the marriage apart because it serves as a constant reminder of something unpleasant. They want to start from scratch and forget about everything that is associated with the tragedy that they have suffered. Still, marriages are not worth giving up just because of a tainted memory. Both spouses should always strive to save their marriage.

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